What might have started as a strategy to address a certain issue may have evolved into a habit.
It’s my belief that good, connected sex is strong glue that can help hold relationships together through the hard times. If a couple isn’t having sex, and they are both truly okay with that, great. But often that’s not the case for one or both partners.
Here’s where seeking guidance from a somatic sex coach can be beneficial. The difference between a sex therapist and a sex coach is that sex therapists offer talk therapy, and couple explore at home. A sex coach offers somatic, body-based work that includes talking. Working with a sex coach, couples practice with guidance the needed intimacy and communication skills.
A therapist might look at root issues, whereas a coach deals with what’s happening in the present as well. We make such a big deal about sex, and people are often so triggered and reactive to the topic. But really, if you had a toothache, you’d go to the dentist, right?
Expressive Writing from Greater Good In Action
Over the next four days, write down your deepest emotions and thoughts about an emotional challenge that has been affecting your life. In your writing, really let go and explore the event and how it has affected you. You might tie this experience to your childhood, your relationship with your parents, people you have loved or love now, or even your career. Write continuously for 20 minutes.
Tips for writing:
- Find a time and place where you won’t be disturbed.
- Write continuously for at least 20 minutes.
- Don’t worry about spelling or grammar.
- Write only for yourself.
- Write about something extremely personal and important to you.
- Deal only with events or situations you can handle now—that is, don’t write about a trauma too soon after it has happened if it feels too overwhelming.
- Optional final step: After the four days of writing, try writing from the perspectives of other people involved in the event or situation.
New Year’s Orgasm: 3 tips to have better sex in 2021
By Ray Motta at Tickle.Life