Does one of these sound like someone you know?
I share these in service of you understanding more about yourself in relationship.
Disclosure: These are composite stories and common traits from hundreds of clients I’ve worked with in private practice.
Mina longs for a loving long term relationship. However, every time she gets near a committed partnership, she finds some reason to end the relationship. For a long time, she’s told herself that she just hasn’t met the right person, but after a number of failed relationships, she’s starting to think that she might be the common denominator.
She loves being physically intimate with others, but keeps her emotions compartmentalized. When things get too emotional, she finds himself asking for “space” or needing to take time. She works a ton, and uses work as a way to manage what she is available for socially. Mina is very independent, and does a lot of things on her own.
She rarely fights with partners, preferring to avoid conflict. She’ll mostly go along with what a partner wants, until she won’t, and then she leaves. Mina is self-sufficient, and has a hard time leaning in to receive support. She is always going to pick up her own shirts at the cleaners, for example.
Trait: Guards heart and keeps it on the surface, while wishing for depth.
Quote: “I need some me time.”