Often couples in long term relationships tend to ‘smoosh’ together, and can lose their clearly defined self. Part of a thriving relationship is two partners who are deeply connected to their own center and committed to their own desires and needs. It’s only when you have yourself that you can be a safe, consenting partner.
Your relationships will likely go through periods of feeling more balanced and less balanced, depending on what’s going on in your life.
This fluctuation is completely normal, and is part of the work of maintaining a long-term partnership. Finding yourselves as individuals in the relationship is an important component of achieving balance together.
Thriving relationships may also be described as interdependent relationships.
Here, both partners mutually support each other as individuals as well as within the relationship. You can rely on each other for support, but you also have a clear sense of your individual identity and personal power.
In your interdependent relationship, each of you bring your own self-esteem, without depending solely on the other to get all of your needs met. Each of you maintain friends, connections, hobbies and interests outside of your relationship.
Signs of a healthy interdependent relationship can include:
- open communication
- a sense of individuality
- time apart
- physical intimacy
- conflict resolution