A guest blog series by Wellcelium Teacher, Max Pearl, founder of TransResilience.
In our process to make our bodies truly a home, we need to cultivate self-compassion and curiosity about our bodies, our sensations, and our experience of our bodies. I spent many years repressing and disconnecting from the sensations and feelings of my body, because they were unpleasant. I also judged my body because it didn’t look like I thought it should look.
As we cultivate compassion for our emotions and our bodies, we are also able to look at our bodies with curiosity and acceptance. For me, this was a big help in dealing with my dysphoria.
Cultivating self-compassion and curiosity is one of those things that is simple, but not easy, especially if you are still in a place of self-judgement, or even self-loathing. You can start with Metta practice.
Also, the first step in cultivating curiosity is to be willing to stop and notice what you are internally saying about your body and sensations.
For instance, if you notice a part of your body and think, “I hate that I have this”, first, don’t judge the hatred. Allow yourself to have it, and be compassionate with yourself about this hatred.
And get curious about it. What is it that you hate? Why?
It’s hard to cultivate your compassion and curiosity for your body if you don’t have compassion and curiosity for your feeling of hatred or dislike towards it.