Step 3: Thank Your Body
You have an internal dialog with yourself about your body. This inner dialog is key to shaping how you feel about yourself.
Take a few minutes before bed, after a shower, or in the morning to thank your body for supporting you. You may want to thank a specific part of you for working for you. Then, compliment yourself. Choose something about you that you find sexy and celebrate it.
Step 4: Take Naked Pictures
If you don’t already feel sexy in your own skin, the idea of being naked on camera might seem overwhelming or silly. I spent a year talking to people of all ages, sizes, genders, and races about their bodies. Universally, people who had naked photos taken of them reported that, upon seeing the pictures, they were finally able to see themselves as sexy or beautiful. For all the women I spoke with, seeing good naked pictures of them was the first major step in rebuilding sexual confidence.
Hire a professional boudoir photographer or get a close friend to help. Take a bunch of different poses. Use different lighting and props. Then, when you are ready, look at the images. You will not like every picture, but there will be a few where you can see yourself as sexy. This can help you feel much sexier in your own skin!
Shame around your body and sexuality was ingrained early and will take some time to unlearn. Here are a few additional resources for helping you grow confidence about both your body and sexuality.
The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor. This is a book, workbook, and website to help you understand the origins of your body shame and overcome this.
Recipes for Elevation by Ra Sekhi Arts Temple. This book will be your favorite companion in self-care, featuring higher level consciousness “recipes” including raw food cuisine that nourishes the body temple, elixirs that enrich and nurture the mind, and incredible bath and body potions that help you maintain focus and create rituals for a healthier lifestyle.